Win or Lose

We all care about the survival of ourselves and make efforts to be the champion in any contest, since Darwin advocated the theory of evolution. Maybe it's nature of human being, but Darwin theory consolidates the tendncy to compete for one's own future. Luckily, if we want to win, we should cooperate with another person to expel another opponent alliance, it's also made by human nature. Therefore, we won't be alone in the world.

When we talk aout the contests in our life, we always take the award as the symbol of champion. We expect the job promotion, the raise of salary and bonus, and acceptance of our argument in our daily life, we hope the such things will secure our position against invaders. Truely, it's the superficiality we could own and show off. I think that a man with deep thought won't agree with us and our behavior, because the award we acquire isn't the whole of our daily life. For example, if you get married, you have a quarrel with your mate, and your opinion dominate the conclusion. I suppose your mate won't be happy to face it, you hurt your relationship between you and your mate. If it happen regularly, yes, you win the victory, but you will lose your marriage.

I have a friend, named Skywalker, his authority isn't accepted by his fellow. One day, his fellow had thrown down the gauntlet infront of him, because of his correcting the bungle matters made by the fellow. It's a difficult thing for Skywalker to admit of such a instance, but he never use the power of management to discipline him. Latterly Skywalker is on the initiative in his department to appeal to top manager for helping the fellow to handle his mother's funeral. It's a abnormal thing for people to understand. Skywalker told me that he just do the right things on his position, and he won't be the one he despise before. As my opinion, I think that Skywalker's fellow won't be informed that he had done for his mother's funeral. The reason why Skywalker to help his fellow is that he want to win his own heart, and being the decent person. It's far beyond from the thought of "WIN or LOSE".

So, I think that
1.To win the contest and acquire the award is easy to be stimulated, and encourage people to join the contest, but it's hard to win the heart of your contender. Maybe you are the champion in the contest, but you initiate many people to against you.
2.How to cooperate with your competitor is the key to win the contest and the way to secure your position, not the smashing of your competitor.
3.To help your opposition party won't be the source of falure of your career, it's the way to win yourself, both superficiality and the essence.